are my parents abusing me?!
my parents always blame everything on me. they call me fat, even though i already know i am, (5'4"194 lbs.) i am just too stressed to lose weight.
i have been hit, thrown down three stairs outside of my house (onto concrete), and many other bad things.
once my mom grabbed my arms, and took her fingernails and dug them into my arms. i had those scratches for weeks. i even had to lie to my friends about how i got them.(i said my cat did it)
the worst one that happened just a few days ago was that my parents cornered me, my dad grabbed my shoulders and threw me into my room. i landed on my shelf, on my chair, and against the wall. i'm not sure but i think i sprained my ankle and wrist. i have bruises and scratches all over my body. my head hit the wall and it was bleeding for most of the night.
i have already tried telling someone. two of the teachers at my school know everything that happened. they were the two that i trusted the most. the one, ( i will not give out her name but her initials are MW) called my parents, made everything worse, and has now sided with my parents. The other, (CP) has tried to help, promised to do whatever i ask, and listens to me.
i love my parents when they are nice (they are some of the time) but when they are mad . . . . . . . .
i will admit to talking back to them. it is what i do to show them that i am not afraid of what they are doing. if i didn't do this they would treat me like their slave.
they also take away everything that i like. they threatened to take away sports, dropped me out of piano lessons (which i have taken for 9 years) , and said i couldn't horseback ride over the summer.
my teachers say that my parents love me and that i am not being abused but i am not sure.
i don't want my parents to be arrested because they are my parents and i will love them whether they are hurting me or not
ANY ADVICE? Any at all please help!
i know i need to get away from them (i kinda want to stay) but i keep hoping things will get better
i am also way too scared about what they will do if i try to talk to them
plus it is too embarrassing (they might tell someone i am close to)
i have a feeling that all of my other family would be too mad at me about getting my parents arrested to want to take me in
both of my teachers first reactions were to call the cops but i had to beg them not to
remember i am 13 it is way to scary to call child abuse people (i also have a life at school,I am popular but i wouldn't be if my friends found out i had my parents arrested.)
Answers:
Ironically, the cops and the child abuse people are the only ones who can help you. If you hadn't stopped your teachers from calling the police, MW wouldn't have sided with your abusive, horrid parents. You could call the police yourself. Go to the school nurse and have your ankle and wrist looked at, and tell the truth about how it happened. You have 2 choices. 1 you stay with them and get beat up until you're probably killed, or 2 tell somebody who can help you. And guess what, if you are taken from abusive parents you won't be forced on maddened relatives. You become a ward of the state. Maybe the school nurse will call the authorities. Let her do it. You need to get out. You only want to stay because your parents are all you know. You are better off with nice people who aren't your parents. I have never thrown my kids anywhere, no matter how mad they've made me. I never call them ugly or fat or worthless. I smack them sometimes, but with my hand so I know how hard I've hit them. I hit them on their legs or their bum. If they move and I hit them anywhere else I check to see that they aren't seriously hurt. I never bruise them or cut them or shove them. There are parents who don't even smack their kids. They put them in corners or on a 'naughty bench' or stop them from watching TV. Now you know what a good parent does. You deserve better. You will do better at school if you have a good life outside school. You will be popular because you are pleasant, not because you live with your parents. I hope you do the right thing and get away from there before something bad happens. Good luck honey. God loves you as you are, whether you're fat or not.
From what you have described, Yes ! this is child abuse, the longer you put up with this the longer it will carry on. Speak to someone, who you can trust, and explain whats going on.
you need to tell alot more teachers.
and tell whoever will listen.
And you need to call cps.
let them tell you what abuse is.
geez...if you couldnt figure that out from being tossed down some stairs you need to wake up .
You are abusing us by posting this repeatedly...talk to a trusted adult or call the cops...IF your story is true, leaving marks on you, throwing/pushing you down, and cursing or belittling you are all abuse...stop posting and take action or you will start being reported for trolling...
Good luck!!!
I think you should try and listen to them and do what they want you to do and don't reply back to them when they scream or shout at you. if they still don't stop abusing and harassing you then you might have to take an action. either you can be brave and talk to them or simply listen to your teachers and call the cops. or you can spend a week or more at a friend's house and avoid talking to your parents. this might make them realize how important you are and maybe they might stop abusing you.
Hope it helped!! :)
Best of luck!
Look you've asked this question several times and I'm getting the feeling you're a troll! If any of this is really true, then go ahead an call CPS or 911 and just get help for yourself instead of asking on here.
I really hope your not a troll you shouldn't joke about this.
If your parents have truley done everything you say CALL 911 and explain everything or call a hotline they'll know what is best. Don't worry about what others think this is for you and you need to do it. If your friends judge you because you get yourself out of a toxic environment their not your friends and you really don't need them.
I really hope things work out for you, hope this helps
http://dreamcatchersforabusedchildren.com/abuse/report-abuse/?gclid=CLS564HtgKgCFUY0QgodxjyfpQ
This is just one site that will help, look on google for other sources if youu need to though
Call the police this is child abuse! ''You want to stay?'' Things won't get better if you stay! Report them!!
Who cares about what your friends says or thinks? Call the police! You're parents deserve to be arrested.
