Vegetarian dating a non vegetarian?!?!
Vegetarian dating a non vegetarian?!?
This question is for all the vegetarians/vegans out there. I've always been curious about this and would love to know what others have to say..
Would you date a non-vegetarian?
Would you marry a non-vegetarian?
If you do decide to date/marry, would you cook meat for your significant other?
Would you allow them to bring meat in your house?
Say you married a non-vegetarian, would your children be vegetarians or non-vegetarians?
Thanks
Answers:
I have been veg for 20+ years and have never dated another vegetarian. Since I do the majority of the cooking at home, my boyfriend is largely veg at home and confines most of his meat-eating to restaurants (he does bbq sometimes at home.) He's worked in restaurants before so he understands cross-contamination, etc... and I don't worry about a little meat in the house but I don't cook it for him. It's my choice for myself and I discuss it with him but I don't impose it on him. We've talked about having kids in the future and he knows it's far more important to me that they be raised vegetarian than it is to him for them not to be, so they will be raised veg until they're old enough to make their own choices.
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upto kids. You cannot control them after a certain age anyway
yeah i would date a non-vegetarian...i'll just try to make him a vegetarian..and no way..i would never cook or buy meat for anyone..i had a non vegetarian boyfriend once and he never ordered meat in a restaurant when he's with me..and thats sweet..and my children will be vegans..
no, no, no,no, vegetarian
I m married to a non vegeterain. My husband is a big meat eater. It sometimes strains our relationship especailly when we want to go out and eat, it's hard to decide on a resaurant. I am the one who cooks in our house. I make two diffrent dinners a night. I will cook meat. Food shopping is he worst and we both have to go, so that there will be food for the both of us in the house! When it comes time for children, they will be raised to eat meat, unless they decide when they are older to become vegeterains.
I am dating a non vegetarian. I would not marry him because I don't believe in marriage, but that's a separate issue. I do NOT cook meat for him. I did, once, heat up some chicken soup for him when he had strep throat. There is meat in the house. When I have kids, they will be vegetarians until they are old enough to make the decision for themselves-ie 12 or 13.
I became a vegetarian more than ten years ago, after marriage. But, even before, I ate mostly vegetarian food. I cook for my husband, but cook his meat/fish separately and then add the vegetarian sides on his dish. I normally don't let him use the same cutlery in my food, though (I can smell his food in mine then).
As for kids, I will make fish and vegetarian alternatives available. The kids will eat what they want to. There's no point in forcing them into vegetarianism when they see the father eat fish and into non-vegetarianism when they see the mother eat vegetarian food. But, I will insist on cod-liver oil intially and let them know why I am a vegetarian and why one might not want that "limitation".
I probably would not mind to date a non vegetarian, but would prefer to date one. If i love the person vegetarian or non. I guess i would have to cook meat for the person but i would not like to do that. If i have to cook the meat for the person i would need them to bring it in ;-). It would be up to the kids but I would prefer that they were vegetarians.
I have no problem with non vegetarian people. My ex boyfriend is non vegetarian and sometimes I cooked for both of us, and always a portion of meat for him.
If I have children, I would try to make them used to eat vegetables and fruits but I would give them meat too. They have to choose if they want to become vegetarians or not.
Hi,,
It a matter of choice..it not what we eat to get along..is how & why we eat & how to get along..like a christian marry a non-christian..if we love the person for what they are ...we love them completely..like it comes in a package..you can't just pick & choose of a same person..then what's left..do you still love?
Would you date a non-vegetarian? Maybe. He'd have to respect my beliefs.
Would you marry a non-vegetarian? If he loved me he'd convert into being a vegetarian. for sure.
If you do decide to date/marry, would you cook meat for your significant other? Definately not. There wouldn't be meat in my house.
Would you allow them to bring meat in your house? No.
Say you married a non-vegetarian, would your children be vegetarians or non-vegetarians? Vegan.
Okey doke!
I am dating a meat-eater. (I'm a vegan, by the way!)
Me and said meat-eater are going to get married in a couple years :)
I don't cook meat for him now, but I'm sure I will eventually! He says he wouldn't make me cook or handle meat for him, but I used to eat and cook meat, so it doesn't bother me. I just do not eat it myself. I don't care that he chooses to eat meat. Why should I? After all, I don't eat meat, and he doesn't care.
Of course he can bring meat in the house!!!
I've had this discussion already with him. When they're old enough, they can make their own choices on food. I would like to raise them as octo-lacto vegetarians, but... it's not my only choice. I'm the only one in my family with this lifestyle, so it would be hard raising them as a vegan!
Hope this helps :D
And the last side note to add. I was reading everyone elses blogs, and a couple answers state something in the form of "I would make the person I am dating a vegetarian." No offense to any of you. But, you can't change someone's eating habits. Me and my guy have been together long enough, and I'ce already set the ground that I wouldn't change him into a vegan, and he said he wouldn't push the meat on me. It's not something you can change someone with. Trying to make someone do (or eat) differently than they choose to is bad for the relationship.
My husband eats meat. I just wouldn't kiss him right after he ate a pastrami sandwich.
I'd cook meat for him, if he asked, but he hasn't. Would you want to eat something that the cook would not? We usually cook our own meals. When we have kids we'll let them make their own choice when the time is right.
My husband is a meat-eater, and I've been vegan since before we met (8 years ago). Both of our kids are eating a well-balanced vegan diet until they're old enough to decide for themselves.
I cook vegan meals, and he eats mostly vegan food at home, but eats meat and dairy when we go out to dinner, a BBQ, etc. We both respect each others choices about diet, so it's never been a problem.
I have had 5 relationships since I became veggie, and all 5 men ate meat to various degrees. It has never been a problem for me, because we respected each other and never criticized food choices. I am now married to an omnivore, and I have cooked meat for him, although he has no expectations that I do this. He will cook his own meat as well, but often will go meatless as well. This is his own choice, and his decision to make. When he's making something particularly meaty, he will wait until I am out of the house, so it can air out a bit and I don't have to smell it. There is nothing that I make that would make him sick if he smelled it cooking, but I would do the same thing if he requested. When we go out, I don't comment, sometimes he orders meat, sometimes he doesn't. We don't go to steak houses, but he doesn't like Indian food, so we don't go to Indian restaurants either. Compromise and mutual respect.
I think it's ridiculous to think that you can "convert" someone or hope that they would become a veggie too if they loved you enough. If that's the case, then the reverse should be true, you should be prepared to go back to eating meat if you loved the other person enough. It's an unfair expectation on either side.
As for children, we've discussed it, and for us the right choice is to raise them veggie. My husband is fine with eating totally meat free then, so as not to confuse them. That makes sense to us. It may not make sense for other couples. We know it may be more difficult for children to be raised veggie due to peer pressure and lack of understanding in our steak and potatoes society, but we feel this is better for their health. Again, our belief, not saying that's what others should do.
Overall, these conversations and compromises need to happen in a relationship for many things besides diet choices, and I've found that it's foolish to hope that someone will change their mind. It's about mutual respect and flexibility for my husband and myself. I'm sure this may be not negotiable for other people.
I would date and/or marry a non-vegetarian. I wouldn't cook meat for him or my kids, but I wouldn't care if they wanted to prepare meat dishes for themselves (and clean it up afterwards!).
I am currently dating a non-vegetarian, it is working well for us :)
I don't believe in marriage, but...I have chosen him (or did he choose me?) as my 'life partner' for lack of a better word.
I would not cook meat, having been raised in a veggie household, I have problems even touching it (makes me feel dirty-don't ask).
I have absolutely no problem with him bringing meat home, but we still keep it mostly veg, because I do most of the cooking. He has no problem with this, infact, the only time he really eats meat is when we go out to eat.
If we were to have kids, I would want to raise them vegetarian until they were old enough to choose for themselves, like my parents did for me.
okay.. I am a Vegetarian .. and now my answers about your questions...
1.) Yes....I do it actually
2.) Yes
3.) no...cuz if he want to eat it..he can do it .. i would do all the other things.. but meat ...no way
4.) Yes
5.) The kids could decide it.. if they want to eat meat.. they can do it. if they don′t want to .. they don′t need to